Parental Alienation: The master manipulators vs. The trauma victims

Here’s a problem: Alienators are master manipulators, so they look like outstanding parents, while rejected parents, suffering so much pain and loss, look like unstable ones. Think about how this looks to the world, which does not help your case in court or in your community. Think about how this looks to your children, which can enforce alienators’ false narrative about you.

Many alienated parents complain that GAL or therapists or school take the alienators’ side. Sometimes, this is the reason.

So while it’s justifiable that you are hurt, you must pull it together in front of your kids and others so you can take on this fight to save your children.

Get the support you need from those who truly understand and can support you. It is almost impossible for others to understand parental alienation, unless if they have been through it, or trained for it. There are many support groups out there with other parents just like you. There are therapists who understand this. Not all, but some friends and family can be open to listening to you – in small doses. So be selective and wise about those you confide in.

Then look inside yourself. You are infinitely more powerful than you realize. There is no hero without that treacherous hero journey full of obstacles: rugged mountain range, fire-breathing dragons, evil witches, and malicious enemy armed with deadly weapons. But you are resilient and smart, and above all, your love for your children is boundless. You can do this. Be the hero that your children need. Stand tall. Sending your love.